An Unidyllic Sidenote

Perhaps you’re thinking – in some corner of your mind – that living aboard is as sensational as it sounds. But I assure you that no place is as sensational as it sounds once you live there for any length of time – especially if you work there.
 
That’s because after you live in a place something weird begins to happen – it becomes normal. The bath water cools off, leaving you cold and soap scummy. Worst of all, domesticity will eventually catch you up: laundry will need to be done, dishes need washing, and inconveniences will sprout up like weeds in your perfect garden.
 
At first, those weeds looked kinda pretty. They had a quaint charm. The unreadable signs are interesting, the blunt conversation of the taxi drivers is amusing, and seeing those college students struggling to carry around giant stuffed animals is kinda cute.
 
These things have a quaint charm…until suddenly, they don’t. Those cute little flowers start choking out the basil. After all, you’d really like to know which sign means “pharmacy.” You’re getting tired of taxi drivers asking you out and if you see one more adult with a giant plush toy, you might just turn to plushicide. 
 
Even here – during this charming trip, I was hand washing all our nasty laundry and hoping it dried in time.
 
Trying to convince someone that travel isn’t always splendid is like trying to convince a schmaltzy single person that marriage isn’t always blissful. Travel will be frustrating at times just as at times, a spouse (or any person) will be frustrating. If you have been married more than 3 days, I think you can’t fail to understand me. Even my own devoted spouse would be forced to agree that even I *ahem* have a few – paltry – faults.
 
Pictures say a thousand words but apparently that is not enough because they don’t even mention what was going on behind the smiley poses and gorgeous scenery let alone the mayhem that was happening behind the camera, which of course, I have no photos of.
 

Shortly after I took this shot, James was doubled over with altitude sickness. See header image.

A minute before I took this shot of a kindly looking grandma, I accidentally got this shot… 

In the cheerful shot to the left, please notice that James and I are soaking wet. The temperature is at the place where, when we stop hiking, we frost over. But when we walk, we sweat inside our rain coats. His backpack also has a Walmart bag for a rain cover which means that some of our stuff is going to get wet – perhaps even ruined – and since it’s a two day hike, our clothes will be wet for a while – clothes driers are rare in China, even if we were near a city. You’ll also notice that our student friend isn’t in the photo. That’s because, once again, we’re waiting in the rain for her to stop looking at her phone and catch up.

This next photo of wondrous landscape – though truly enjoyable to take – was taken while I was waiting for our driver to pick us up. You see, the bus tickets sold out. So instead of paying $18, we were about to pay $66. I also felt slightly ill, which is why I’m not hiking down the Tiger Leaping Rock trail and am only taking shots from the top. The next day, James would get his turn feeling sick and end up spending most of his time in Shangri-La in our chilly, damp hostel room.
 
Those inconveniences certainly don’t mean that one shouldn’t travel just like they don’t mean one shouldn’t get married. I just recommend that one keep appropriate expectations in mind before beginning such endeavors and prepare the right mindset to handle difficulties. Take the good with the bad – because on earth, they’re both included in the box.
 
Despite all that, James and I were having a pretty enjoyable time and don’t regret taking the trip – even when soaking wet. After all, we got these sweet shots plus way more that I’m not showing you.
 
As our good man G.K. Chesterton pointed out, “An adventure is only an inconvenience rightly considered; an inconvenience is only an adventure wrongly considered.” 
 
Now, if we could just hang onto that mindset while at home and abroad we’d have a lot more adventures. 

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